Hello, I’m Tom (friends all call me “Doc”) I’m 29 and live and work in the Chicago area. I recently returned home from New York City to be with my father; whom has been alone since my mother passed. I have recently started my own Private Equity firm and do freelance writing on the side; both jobs keep me busy and I truly enjoy each one; however, I feel that thus far all my accomplishments have been hollow because there has been nobody for me to share the excitement with, the pitfalls, struggles, stresses and un-inhibited joy. I have simply come to the point in my life where I want to meet someone and develop a long lasting, loving, compassionate and rock solid relationship—the type where our friends are jealous when they see us together; the type where they remark they haven’t seen us this happy in a long time. What kind of relationship am I looking for more specifically? Let me tell it to you the best way I know how:



I seek the totality of the little moments—you know the kind, where you are sitting next to each other on the couch and before you know it your wrapped around each other. I want the type of relationship, where I can cup her face in my hands and gently kiss her cheek; the kind where when our mouths meet for a kiss its more than just a physical act, it releases energy coupled with emotion; where passion, senses and desire all coalesce to bring forth a feeling of timelessness and completeness that neither one of us would want that moment; that single, solitary kiss to ever end; we would long to stay engrossed in that moment and seek it when ever we could.


I want the kind of relationship where unbridled passion mixes with human thought, reasoning and intelligence to foster the development of a real relationship; one that possess all the necessary instruments to be successful. I want the kind where a simple touch of the hand can send a chill through the body, the kind where she and I shouldn’t be afraid to express our love through tiny acts of affection in public; the kind where I can put my arms around her at any given moment, sweep her close to me and for a brief second linger in the sweet smell of her aura, taking in the beauty that she is and always will be, before our lips meet and her senses were overwhelmed by a kiss so passionate that it rivals the sweetest lyrics the poets have ever penned; its luscious tenderness would make the most moving stanza’s and sonnets pale in comparison to the adoration, genuineness and love she would be feeling----it’s the kind of kiss that stories are made of.


I am looking for the kind of relationship where sex is not just sex, where its not the arbitrary physical act but rather; sex is more an act of love and compassion, where each of us can become lost in the other, much as an artist is lost in the vision of his creation; and our creation would be the love we are making; so much more than physical, so much. So much so that our connection would go past the physical realm to the more deeper connection of symbiotic unity; the type of unity where sex isn’t just about an orgasm; its about love, passion, completeness; where making love is a moment to be treasured, sacred, fragile like the fresh beginnings of a new day—a new life.


I seek the kind of relationship where the barriers of human communication crumble like an old wall being replaced; more like demolished. Words have power, words have meaning, words carry emotion; why should any of that be kept from each other—words can hurt, and most often they do, I seek a relationship where respect is not just simply given but it is earned; where each other’s viewpoints are accepted and given due consideration; where discourse is not only fostered but encouraged and where both parties reach a mutual decision; one is not well served by driving the wrong way on a one-way street, communication must flow equally in both directions.


I am looking for the relationship that has an element of spontaneity of surprise of unexpected twists and turns, much like a hiking trail through the woods or up a mountain side. A trail, a journey that her and I can embark upon together, can draw strength from each other, be at peace with the fact that no matter what we have each other’s back; if one fall’s the other is there to pick them up, brush them off and encourage them to keep going; the type of journey that teaches both of us it is ok to be vulnerable to let your inner lyrics flow to create the song which will define who we are and what we strive to be.


This is the type of relationship that I seek. Is it out there? Is there such a person who wants, nay, craves what I seek as well? I sincerely hope so, for if there is not; then why the toil day after day, seeking, hoping, praying that such a thing exists. I would love to meet someone who feels the same way, who is ok with a man being comfortable with himself enough to express his feelings like I have; a woman who likes a man that has a command of his lexicon and is not afraid to use it. A woman that loves to travel…..after all I am planning a weekend getaway to Vegas after the New Year and I would HATE to go alone. Is she out there? To think not is to render hope to where it cannot emanate from.

I have attached a picture of myself, in the spirit of full disclosure; I am 5’10, 160lbs with brown hair and eyes, I have glasses but am really considering contacts.